I am sorry!
It is quite easy to point out when someone else has wronged us. The real challenge and dear I say a true measure of ourselves, is admitting when we have wronged another.
Over the weekend, a long unanswered, burning question regarding a friend was finally satisfied and the answer revealed that somewhat unknowingly, I messed up and I messed up big time.
In that moment, after hearing how my actions had deeply affected and hurt someone I cared about dearly, my heart sank, imagining the pain I caused.
In the broad context of the situation, it could be argued that my choices were based on what I thought was right for the circumstances. However, beyond what I thought was right, there were other persons involved, who should have been considered equally.
Truly acknowledging when you are wrong and genuinely apologizing, comes from a place of healing and true love. It takes courage and in some instances strength to come to this realization and to do something about it.
It is a golden opportunity for the offender to take an honest, unfiltered look within herself and assess her heart, choices and actions. Then, determining if her way of being is in fact serving and if there is room for growth.
Acknowledging when we are wrong and taking it a step further, by wholeheartedly apologizing to those affected, once given the opportunity to, in most instances, is the first step in the restoration and healing process.
It is important to note here that our choice to acknowledge our lapse in judgment and apologize for it, should be done, FREE OF ANY EXPECTATIONS. We should relinquish any assumptions that the other person (s) will accept our apology or even want to continue relating to us because we apologized.
Your decision to apologize for your err in judgment is solely based on your personal realization of self and your choice to rectify what was possibly damaged. The recipient's choice to accept or not accept is 100% theirs.
We are all works in progress. We may not always make the best decisions and judgments and risk hurting those we love and care about. But, if we are open and committed to continuously improving, growing and being better everyday, this will inevitably lead to better choices, more nurturing relationships and personal growth.
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